Real talk this Morning.
I’m tired. Like drop dead, crabby AF tired.
And here’s a fun fact. I haven’t had coffee in a month. Or eaten anything with gluten. Seriously. And I have been feeling GREAT. but this morning, I NEED COFFEE.
On Thursday nights I host a Live Sale for my Boutique which has me up late, getting to bed well after everyone in my house is asleep. Totally fine with that. It’s my job. And I Love It. But what you don’t know is for some crazy reason our youngest decided a few weeks ago to have some sort of obsession with riding the school bus. The bus that arrives at 6:30. The bus that I feel is just way too early for my kids that have a very long school day as it is now. I know. I was an educator for several years. They need all the rest they can get. So, we drive them in. But....her obsession is real and she has been determined to ride the bus. Even if it means going to bed earlier. Even if it means waking on her own. Even if it means discipline. And you know I'm all about Goal Diggers. So, we allowed it. But then SHIT. GOT. REAL.
Now, to be bluntly honest I am the only early riser around here. And not that I necessarily enjoy rising before our crowing Rooster does but because if I'm going to get that workout in its got to happen at the crack of dawn or it doesn't get done. It is what it is. So, I figured it wouldn't be too bad. I would wake her up when I got up to work out and it would be fine. But then it got crazy. She began to get this obsession I wouldn't wake up. Or she would miss the bus. She began resorting to infant mode and all of the sudden I had a newborn again. One that woke at all hours of the night only this one didn't need breast fed. This one was at my bed side saying "Can you do my hair?" at 2am. "How long do I have before the bus comes?" at 3am and when I had enough of that and told her she COULD NOT WAKE ME UP THAT EARLY she began just getting ready on her own. Turning every light on and getting ready in complete entirety. A 6-year-old all dressed up with no place to go. Watching Netflix at 4am. A full 2.5 hours before the bus was set to arrive. The rest of the household still sound asleep. Her Mother? A Walking Zombie. Hangry at the World before the Sun had rose planning to fuel that anger with Carbs and plan an early Happy Hour. Who needs to work today right? My Middle Daughter says to me "Mom, you can always go back to bed" where I laugh and say "Oh silly child, but there is work to be done today and a Mother does not simply just go back to bed."
Ah, the joys of being a Working Mom, right?
Now any tips on getting your 6-year-old to Sleep through the Night. Seriously. Drop them Below.
Hey Ya'll! I'm Barb the Owner of Southern Mess. Most days you can find me in our Warehouse working my tail off to bring you the latest and greatest. We are known for our love for fashion that focuses on Real Women. All of our Models are 30+, have real bodies, kids, work, and our images are not photoshopped. We want you to really see what you will look like in our clothes. People would often refer to me as having a Gypsy Soul with a Sailor's Mouth. And I won't argue with that. I love serving the world but empowering Woman to support one another and giving back to our Community where I can. I'm most passionate about my husband, my 3 girls, our ranch, and my business. When I'm not busy working on the boutique you can find me outdoors on our Ranch. Or doing piles and piles of laundry. Yay...laundry.
If you're dying to hear more, here are 5 things you might not know about me:
1. I have chapstick....everywhere. All over our house, in my car, in the office. Addicted.
2. I love a little coffee with my creamer.
3. I never raised a farm animal until we moved onto our Ranch.
4. I used to get up every morning and milk our goats before work.
5. My husband and I had 3 children before we decided to Marry.
Still here and don't think I'm super weird? Great. Then we should be friends. Seriously though....Let's Connect! Follow me on Facebook and IG @smboutiquetx.
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This quote literally has always made me cringe a little. So much so that I knew when I began designing I had to put it on a shirt. Maybe it's meant to be sarcastic. I don't know. I've always had a weird sense of humor like that.
But seriously though. It's taken me a very long time to find my own happiness and to figure out what even makes me happy. The other day I watched a little video clip and in the video the Woman was saying how we as Mothers and Wives often lose our way. We forget how to find our own happiness because we are constantly serving others and in that servitude we begin to think that in order to find happiness we need to gain that happiness FROM others when in fact happiness comes from within ourselves.
When I first looked at this quote or heard it, I immediately thought of the husband. He needs to keep his Wife Happy and in return they will have a Happy Life. I thought that was ridiculous. Absurd. Insert the cringe face. This quote doesn't mean that to me. It's about keeping ourselves happy as Wives and Mothers so that we can have a Happy Life with zero regrets. You see when we are doing what we love and what we enjoy, we are able to spread that to others. We are able to put that energy into positive things and focusing on our blessings. So it's not so much about perhaps keeping someone else Happy but allowing them to find their own Happiness even if it's different from your own. Then embracing it and loving them more because of it.
I still have so much to learn in life but if I can share one thing I have, it's not to settle for anything that makes you unhappy. Or anyone for that matter. Life shouldn't be about sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of someone else because that only leaves you with a whole lot of resentment and regret. You deserve to find your passion and utilize it for all it's worth. You deserve to be around the people who love you for who you are at your worst and at your best. You deserve to be Happy.
Owner, Designer, Workaholic at Southern Mess