Southern Mess Holiday Bonus Info

Southern Mess Holiday Bonus Info

Purchases made between Dec 1 and Dec 31st will accrue $5 for every $50 spent. The bonus cash is earned per order and is not accumulated. 

For example place a $55 order you'll earn $5 bonus cash certificate in that order. Place $200 order and you'll get a bonus cash certificate for $20 in that order. 

Bonus cash codes can be used Jan 1-30th. There is a minimum purchase requirement. Offer cannot be combined with other codes, coupons, or sales and does not apply to previous purchases. 

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The Vow to Shop Small

The Vow to Shop Small

Shopping Small is so much more than supporting local communities.

It's supporting actual people, working hard every day to make a dream come true.

It's putting food on the table. Helping makes end meet. And loads and loads of sacrifice.

We grow because of your support and commitment to keep things small and your trust in our company. Your support helps us do our part to ensure better roads, better schools, and more revenue coming into our city. 

It allows us to create jobs and keep them secure so our employees can better their situations and reach their goals. 

It truly takes a village.

I would personally not be where I am at today if it wasn't for an amazing group of small business owners, friends, and family who have been the support system I needed to get through the tough and focus on our company goals.

Last year I sent an email out titled "When you Buy From a Small Business an Actual Person Does a Happy Dance" and I meant it just as much then as I do today. 

When I began our company, I had no idea where it would take me. We began as a little monogramming company on Etsy where I shipped orders from my coffee table and processed orders from my kitchen table. Last December I left my full time job teaching to focus on Southern Mess full time. I spent a lot of time reflecting on my goals and where I wanted our company to go.  I wanted something authentic, different, and personal.  We are so much more than fashion. We are a way of life, and a tribute to Woman all over the world. We are about empowerment, community, and working together for a common good. We are real and we are just like you. Through our brand we reflect every day fashion. We are casual but like to dress up. Our graphic tees often say the things everyone else  was already thinking. The faces behind our brand are Mothers trying to figure it all out just like the rest of us. They have flaws and insecurities but have also grown so much in confidence, and that's the very thing we love we feel we were blessed to do. I have a passion for fashion but also for coming together and building something amazing, lasting, and honest. 

Thank you from every part of my heart for your support.  It means the absolute world to me and my family. As we come up on 3 years of business, I'm amazed at what we have been able to do and so excited to show you what we have planned next! 

XOXO,

Barb

Southern Mess 

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Perfection and Being Thankful For Enough

Perfection and Being Thankful For Enough

Perfection.
 
For a long time I felt I needed to be that. To have whatever that little word meant. To own it. Or heavens forbid be judged for it. 
And then as if God knew exactly what I needed, I no longer strive for it anymore. As Southern Mess grew, my obsession over things that really didn't matter begin to diminish. Maybe it was because there were just not enough hours in the day to be amazing at everything. Or that with the growth of my company, every moment with my family mattered more than how I felt things needed to appear to be. 
Yet I still find myself apologizing. "Sorry my house is a mess, it's been crazy." "Ignore the mountain of laundry, I'm powering through it between work." Leftovers instead of experimenting top Pinterest recipes? No shame. Hair a mess and wearing the same shirt from yesterday? Oops. My signature look. No makeup. 
And as I sit here now, powering through the finishing touches for our big Black Friday weekend, with 24 unread text messages, 50 unread PM's, and a mountain of emails I'm not the least bit stressed about tomorrow. My old self. She would be. You see, I decided to host Thanksgiving ,except this year I'm not stressing over the perfect menu, making my house look like we don't live there, or how I'm going to impress everyone. Instead I'm so very grateful for that moment with family who loves us. Who chose to spend their Holiday at our home. And who, let's be honest, don't care what my house looks like. Because those are the people we need in our life. The ones who want to be there for you, as you are. 
See perfection is often perceived. Assumed. And most often, wrong. No one is perfect. Sometimes, with the advances of social media, we just appear that way. And quite often, we  feel this expectation to live up to what everyone else is doing. 
I had someone say to me once (and it wasn't a compliment) that I thought I was just soooo perfect. (insert eye roll). They went on to cut me down about my Master's Degree, my business success, even the home we live in. And although deep down I know those words were meant to be hurtful and stemmed from jealousy, I've never forgotten them. You see, they saw what looked like the perfect life I live. I do have a Master's Degree. I also worked my tail off for it all while being pregnant and giving birth to 3 children over 8 years total of school. My husband and I paid for every bit of that degree ourselves. I earned it. I'm over the moon proud of Southern Mess but it hasn't grown without many sacrifices from myself and my children. Blood, sweat, and tears were put into it. Anyone, and I mean anyone can have that too, if they want it bad enough. I didn't get lucky. I put in the work. And oh my home. Yes, I love our home. It's what I've dreamed of. An old farmhouse with Longhorns in the pasture. The home we were afraid we would lose when my husband got laid off. The home we renovated mostly ourselves. The home we chose over taking vacations and buying frivolous items for years so we could afford it. The home I hope to pass down to my children someday. Again, nobody has a perfect life. 
The point of it all is that during this time of year, it's so easy to get caught up in the pressure. Please take the time to enjoy the moment. Love those in your life who love you back. And know that things are often not what they appear to be. Don't ever let someone else's blessings feel like your failure. Celebrate with them and Be Thankful for Enough. 
Happy Thanksgiving
XOXO,
Barb 
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Happy Wife Happy Life- The Southern Mess Interpretation

Happy Wife Happy Life- The Southern Mess Interpretation

Ya'll.

This quote literally has always made me cringe a little. So much so that I knew when I began designing I had to put it on a shirt. Maybe it's meant to be sarcastic. I don't know. I've always had a weird sense of humor like that.

But seriously though. It's taken me a very long time to find my own happiness and to figure out what even makes me happy. The other day I watched a little video clip and in the video the Woman was saying how we as Mothers and Wives often lose our way. We forget how to find our own happiness because we are constantly serving others and in that servitude we begin to think that in order to find happiness we need to gain that happiness FROM others when in fact happiness comes from within ourselves. 

When I first looked at this quote or heard it, I immediately thought of the husband. He needs to keep his Wife Happy and in return they will have a Happy Life. I thought that was ridiculous. Absurd. Insert the cringe face. This quote doesn't mean that to me. It's about keeping ourselves happy as Wives and Mothers so that we can have a Happy Life with zero regrets. You see when we are doing what we love and what we enjoy, we are able to spread that to others. We are able to put that energy into positive things and focusing on our blessings. So it's not so much about perhaps keeping someone else Happy but allowing them to find their own Happiness even if it's different from your own. Then embracing it and loving them more because of it. 

I still have so much to learn in life but if I can share one thing I have, it's not to settle for anything that makes you unhappy. Or anyone for that matter. Life shouldn't be about sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of someone else because that only leaves you with a whole lot of resentment and regret. You deserve to find your passion and utilize it for all it's worth. You deserve to be around the people who love you for who you are at your worst and at your best. You deserve to be Happy. 

XOXO,

Barb

Owner, Designer, Workaholic at Southern Mess

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Stop the Negativity Please

Stop the Negativity Please

If you watched the Super Bowl, then you probably saw Lady Gaga's performance. If you're like me, her performance is all that you watched. 

She went above and beyond and whether you're a fan or not, she owned the Halftime Show. 

But I was shocked, saddened, and concerned at what followed. A slew of social media posts began focused on her body. Judging, shaming, saying things like "Couldn't get past that belly flab".

Ugh, ya'll. That's our problem. We are so quick to judge and say things that can't be taken back and Dear Lord, if they can't get past her belly flab then I guess I won't be putting on a swimsuit this year. Or like ever. 

But seriously. I'm curious how amazing the bodies are on all of these people, who felt so inclined to judge HER body. Probably not so much. Because you see, as a society we take our own insecurities, and we push them off on someone else. 

As a Mother of 3 girls, I have had to really watch myself. I'm not always happy at what I've done to my body, whether it be from childbirth or that extra slice of pizza, but I owe it to my daughters to teach them the difference between healthy and thin. Fit and sedentary. About taking care of our bodies but also being proud of what they are and what they are capable of. 

Ya'll in the past 10 years my body has changed. A lot. I'm larger than I once was. Softer than I was. Older than I was. I've had three babies. My body has gained (and lost) 30+ pounds each time. That is life. That is sacrifice. That is love. And it came with a whole lot of baggage I hadn't planned on. 

About 4 years ago I had a goal to put on a bikini again. Not even sure why to be honest, but I did it.  I lost 25 lbs of pure fat and was super proud of the hard work I put in. But all the weight loss didn't take away my stretch marks, my insecurities, my fear of judgement. I looked in the mirror and was still not where I wanted to be, which was unrealistic because I wanted my body to be 18 again, before kids so you know..... I wore the bikini anyway at the encouragement of my bestie but I was so dang uncomfortable because of what others may be thinking. Ya'll that sucks! I lost all that weight, worked out super hard, got crazy toned after three kids and I was still worried I may be too fat, too old, too stretch marky (yes, I know that's not a word).  We have gotta stop this cycle of judgment and instead celebrate each other, uplift each other, and encourage each other to wear that dress, rock that look, and most of all BE YOURSELF. 

Lady Gaga came back with an amazing message to her haters. She said that she was proud of her body and that you don't need to cater to anyone else in order to be successful. And she's so right. But I also know that those words spoken about her were hurtful. Made her possibly second guess her decision making. Quite possibly even changed the way she looked at herself in the mirror, you know what I'm talking about, when you scrutinize all the parts of yourself you are already insecure about or weren't until someone else said you should be. Those words, they change people. 

So the next time you see someone rocking something you probably wouldn't and your first thoughts are to laugh, mock, or shake your head remember that it took confidence to wear what they are wearing, whether you would or not, and that's something we can all look up to. 

XOXO,

Barb

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The Calm After the Storm

The Calm After the Storm

Ya'll there are things in our life that are meant to challenge us. Some deep to the core of your soul and some that seem devastating at the time but are really minor in perspective. 

For the past 10 days we were without electricity. Hit by an ice storm that devastated our town, the area, and our farm. Pretty hard when you are caring for a family, a business that is run online and a farm. I went 3 days before I showered, then 3 more after that. I think that's the longest I've gone without one, since I was like 5. That first shower offered to me by someone who owed me nothing. Just a kind gesture and one worth remembering. Inspiring me to pay it forward someday.

We did break down and buy a generator after about day 5 or 6. A painful purchase, but without it we would continue to go without hot water, which not only we need for that said shower, but our bottle calf who I worried would get sick drinking his milk cold. We needed power to cook, so my girls could go back to school, so I could work. 

I've been spending my time cutting out the ugly from my life. Whether it be people, my own thoughts, or the noise from the outside world. Through this, I remained positive, slightly anxious but manageable and I focused on all the things I COULD do without electricity. Yea, hauling buckets of water to animals isn't fun, but hey I could use the exercise. To be honest, without the distraction of my phone or the internet I got to read, A lot. I got to really listen to my kids. I got to explore outside. I even got to watch my girls spend a whole day helping their Dad move tree limbs while I deep cleaned all the places in our home I always say I have no time to do.

If you look closely in the photo of me, you will see some of those branches blurred in the background. I contemplated moving them. I did. And then I decided that even though no one will probably notice, I will. I will see them and remember this storm. A man lost his life getting power back in our area. Working around the clock, like countless others, so our area could stop living in the dark. Makes my hot water catastrophe seem like an absolute joke compared to the nightmare his family is living right now.  

Each day is a gift. There is no promise of a tomorrow.

 Cherish the beauty even in the storm. And keep on smiling. 

XOXO,

Barb

Owner, Creator, and Work A Holic at Southern Mess

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An Anniversary and a Birthday

An Anniversary and a Birthday

As another year creeps in, I'm constantly reminded that I'm not getting any younger. I have 3 little girls and my oldest will be rushing off to Jr. High next year. Unsettling for a Mama who gave birth to her at the young age of 22 for sure. 

Interestingly enough, this day, my birthday, is also the anniversary of Southern Mess. Up until this time last year, we were a small Etsy shop still testing waters. Over Christmas last year, I told my husband I was going to become an online boutique. I'm pretty sure he rolled his eyes. 

My first website looked childish really. Setup as best I could. For those who placed their very first orders, thank you. You've watched us grow, succeed, and become well, You. 

I wanted to do something special for our anniversary but wasn't sure what. So I ordered this over the top Southern outfit from another boutique owner not really confident I would actually ever wear it. Oh how I tried it on. For weeks. Back and forth. Do I? Don't I? Is it too flashy? Am I too old? Can I even pull this thing off? I need to lose weight. I need to be 20 again. My boobs are too big. My stomach isn't flat enough. Can my legs get any whiter?

And then I remembered something said to me by two different people last week. Eat the Cake. Buy the Shoes. Take the Trip. I kept thinking "Wear the dress." 

And I did. Because our whole company, my vision, is about celebrating woman. For who they are, what they've become, and what they can be. No strings attached. I designed a shirt with a phonetically spelled cuss word displayed across the chest for goodness sake. I can do this. And I did. 

So Happy Birthday to me, another year older but probably not grown up yet, whatever that is anyway.

Happy Anniversary to Southern Mess because without ya'll, there would be no us. 

So let's celebrate because we can't wait to show you how unstoppable we can be in 2017. 

XOXO,

Barb

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What Small Business Saturday Means To Me

What Small Business Saturday Means To Me

Shopping Small is so much more than supporting local communities.

It's supporting actual people, working hard every day to make a dream come true.

It's putting food on the table. Helping makes end meet. And loads and loads of sacrifice.

We grow because of your support and commitment to keep things small and your trust in our company.

It truly takes a village.

I would personally not be where I am at today if it wasn't for an amazing group of small business owners, friends, and family who have been the support system I needed to get through the tough and focus on our company goals.

 I sent out an email last week saying "When you Buy From a Small Business an Actual Person Does a Happy Dance" and I meant it. 

When I began our company, I had no idea where it would take me. We began as a little company on Etsy and last December re branded into Southern Mess Boutique. I spent a lot of time reflecting on my goals and what I wanted our company to be about. I wanted something authentic, different, and personal. We are so much more than fashion. We are a way of life, and a tribute to Woman all over the world. We are about empowerment, community, and working together for a common good. We are real and we are just like you. Through our brands we reflect every day fashion. We are casual but like to dress up. Our graphic tees often say the things everyone else  was already thinking. The faces behind our brand are Mothers trying to figure it all out just like the rest of us. The have flaws and insecurities, and that's the very thing we love about them. 

Thank you from the bottom the deepest part of my heart for your support. It means the absolute world to me and my family. 

Here's to an amazing December and an even better 2017!

XOXO,

Barb

Southern Mess 

 

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Be Thankful

Be Thankful

I came across this this quote last night as I was laying in bed trying to figure out a way to get everything I needed to do done. Life has been nothing short of complicated for me lately as we gear up for the holiday madness and I work on balancing all of my obligations. 

"Be thankful for the bad things in life for they open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." 

This. A quote that may not mean much to some but means a whole hell of a lot to me. 

From the outside we always appear to have it all together. The perfect home. The perfect job. The perfect kids. The perfect life. But the truth is in the rawest moments, there are very few, if any, that have actually accomplished this persona. 

My life has been nothing short of "bad" things but every single one has turned into something beautiful. Sometimes it takes several years to actually see that beauty. But it's there. Waiting to shine. Waiting for you to see how amazing it can all be. 

Many people don't believe that everything happens for a reason, but I do. I'm not always sure about the reason or confident in where it's going, but in my life it's always led me to something incredible. In the times life was downright awful, I made it. In the times I doubted myself, I somehow pulled through. Every time I wanted to throw the towel in and give up, I didn't. I kept going even if my direction changed. But none of these things would be possible without drive and commitment. If we sit down and have a pity party nothing changes. YOU make that change in your life and you can direct yourself wherever you believe you can go. You just have to stop and listen. Be reflective and let go of the doubt that may be holding you back. 

So this holiday season, as we sit down tomorrow with family and friends, be incredibly grateful and attentive to all of the good things you may have not been paying attention to before. It's there. I promise. 

From our Family to Yours we wish you a very Happy Thanksgiving! 

XOXO,

Barb

Southern Mess Boutique 

 

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Meet the Models- Randi Cunningham

Meet the Models- Randi Cunningham

We want to take some time to celebrate the faces behind our Southern Mess brand. When we started out on this journey, we knew we didn't want to feature professionals. We wanted real woman and we wanted to ensure we celebrate those that are truly who we are both as a brand and as Women/Mothers/Trendsetters. 

Say Hello to Randi! An active Momma of 2 who is an all out natural! Not only is she absolutely gorgeous she's super down to Earth and a lot of fun to be around. She's not afraid to speak up for what she believes is right either. We LOVE that about her! 

She's been married to her husband for 7 years (he's a former model too!) and they have two of the cutest little boys you'll ever meet. They just got a new puppy and he's super fun to watch! 

She's been a teacher for 10 years and she also teaches group fitness classes. This weekend she is participating in her first marathon running 26 miles! Exercising is one of her all time favorites! She's also an R + F consultant and their products totally rock! You can check them out here at : randicunningham.myrandf.com 

She refers to herself as a control freak (ummm can totally relate there!) and is very head strong. If she decides she's going to do something, there's no changing her mind! She adores being a Mother and a Wife and works hard to cherish every moment with her family. She uses her faith to focus on what God has planned for their lives. 

Her style consists of mostly jeans and tshirts so Southern Mess is definitely her jam! 

Her motto is: "Don't let fear decide your future!" 

 

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When Life Hands You Lemons...You add some Vodka and Go with It

When Life Hands You Lemons...You add some Vodka and Go with It

Photo shoots have not been in my favor lately. The weather up in the Panhandle of Texas has been insane, windy, and don't even get me started on the dust. I've been postponing new arrival shoots hoping the weather would eventually give me a break. It hasn't! So we decided to go through with our model shoot anyway despite a chance for rain and the wind a blowin'. 

Of course, I get this crazy idea a few weeks ago that I wanted to take photos from our Hunting Line using my husband's deer blind. If ya'll know a hunter, live with a hunter, or have ever been around a hunter then you know that in November you DO NOT disturb the wildlife and you DO NOT host a dang photo shoot on sacred ground. But of course, I'm a Capricorn which means I'm stubborn, so I tell my husband we will go early so that all will remain as it was and no deer will be disturbed in the making of our ad campaign. I didn't give him a chance to tell me no. 

So...we load up in our Ranger and we head out. Wind is messing up everyone's hair but whatevs. We get half way to our destination and our Ranger begins to slow down. I'm thinking "this is weird" and then it goes no more. We are stuck. Surely not. This can't be. We are far from much and I have 3 models in full on model gear with heels to match as well as my 3 children (mind you I discover one is barefoot). My husband is out gun shopping (imagine that) and....between 4 social media junkie adults we have no phones. Yep, you read that right. Not one. So we look on the map my husband drew us and decide no biggie. It's not that far. We will just walk. We send my oldest and middle child on a hike back to get a 4wheeler which will then take them up to our home to drive a vehicle back and we start walking. Barefoot child stays in the Ranger.(let the judging begin) We get further down and realize that the deer blind is still super far away and no way we are walking that far. So I'm thinking, Whatever. Screw it. Maybe it's a sign. Let's just take photos right here in the pretty field. So I grab my camera and....ya'll I can't even make this stuff up....No battery in the camera. So now here we are, all dressed up with really no place to go. With no phones and no battery. Mind you, now it's getting later and we have accomplished nothing. So by now we are laughing and I've pretty much decided this is not going to happen.  I begin to wonder what's taking the girls so long and my Mommy worry sets in. Then sure enough I see this little blue van coming down the road (yes, ya'll I live in the country and drive a mini van, super trendy I know). So now we all load up and my sister in law gets her Razor, which is crazy fun but not when you want nice hair, and we take the 4 wheeler, Razor, and mini van out to our deer blind destination. Finally, we make it, only to discover that the whole thing is surrounded by an electric fence and that voltage is pumping! Now, I may be country, but those fences make me nervous and lowering one while it's charged gets my heart pumping. But we handle it like champs and drive on through.

Now for the kicker...You know what photos turned out the best? I'll give you a guess..Not the ones up on our deer blind but the ones in the field of grass below. You know, the same grass we have in our pasture right outside our door without all the work involved.

I think we all earned a drink or five tonight! So when you see our photos pop up give us a little cheer because, my friends, we definitely earned it!

XOXO,

Barb

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